Movies about Women’s Friendships
There is something that has always drawn me to the movies depicting the bonding between women. No matter how many times I see these movies. I want to watch them again the next time they’re on. These movies allow me to reflect on those experiences that are exclusive to women. Who else understands us better, truly has our back, is the best person to take on a road trip (Really, men do not make enough bathroom stops.), to laugh with, to go with us to see the women movies we can’t drag our men to (Who did you see Magic Mike with? I know who I went with.)? Who do we gossip with, and make us do things we’re dragging our feet to do, make us a better person, and are there for us in both good times and bad? This is probably why it plays such a prominent spot in my writing of The Girlfriends Series. Check out my books for more information. Here is a list of twenty movies to consider the next time you want to watch a movie that celebrates the friendships between women.
- Steel Magnolias
- Fried Green Tomatoes
- Divine Secrets of the Ya-Ya Sisterhood
- Boys on the Side (Title says it all)
- Now and Then
- Mystic Pizza
- Sex and the City (Okay, this is a series as well as movies.)
- The Sweetest Thing
- Mona Lisa Smile
- The Women (There is a 1939 version and a 2008 version. I happen to be partial to the 1939 but watch both and make your own decision)
12. Bride Wars
13. Step Mom (Being friends with your husband’s new wife and they look like Julia
Roberts that’s a tough one, but we can all relate to the issues brought forward in
15. 9 to 5
16. Roma and Michelle
17. The First Wives
18. Sisterhood of the Traveling Pants (Girls just love to share clothes)
19. How to Make an American Quilt
20. Thelma and Louise (Now that is taking the being at your back to the edge,
21. The Other Woman (Becoming BFFs with your husband’s mistresses. Wow! You have to check it out.
Let me know of any movies that I should add to my list.
Using Music to Inspire Your Writing
For me, music plays an important part of the stories I write. First of all, I use songs to help me focus on the mind set of my characters. What are they thinking? It can help me push the plot along. They can even appear in the book. A few of these did. Sometimes, I use song titles to help me come up with the title for the book. In the end, I did not choose a song for the title. But along the way “So Right with You” did go through some title changes, including Her Secret Santa, Just a Kiss (Lady Antebellum) and More than a Kiss (Tommy Conwell). This last song was a great song for thinking about the mind set of Garrett. I still love it. Here is the playlist for Chloe.
Wake up call * Maroon 5
Part of Me * Katie Perry
Satellite * Peter Conway
Ain’t No Other Man *Christina Aguilera
Breathless *The Corrs
Falling Even More in Love with You*Lifehouse
More than a Kiss*Tommy Conwell
She’s Everything*Brad Paisley
Lead Me On*Gloriana
You’re Going to Fly*Keith Urban
Hip to My Heart*Band Perry
The Way You Look Tonight*Harry Connick Jr.
It Had To Be You*Harry Connick Jr.
Truly, Madly, Deeply*SavageGarden
In So Right with You, I have included a secret celebrity. Do you have a secret celebrity you would want to see in a book?
Secrets of Writing Sex Scenes
Have you ever wondered how authors prepare to write those sizzling hot scenes in their novels? Where do they come up with their ideas? From personal experience, I can tell you it isn’t quite the scenario you might expect. When I wrote the first seduction scene in “So Right with You,” it was late at night. The mood was set with the TV on for background music, and Zombieland was playing. Yes, I wrote my first seduction scene to Zombieland. Now, you need to understand my teen daughter had informed me that she was the most sheltered child in the world, because her parents had not allowed her to watch a horror flick. She was the only kid in her class who had never seen a monster movie. I had asked her, “What do you want to see?” Her response was: “Zombieland.” That night, as I sat there surfing through channels for something to watch, I found it on, so I wrote my first steamy scene to the cult classic. You know, I was actually doing research on whether Zombieland was an appropriate movie for my teen daughter. I have to admit I was entertained by the movie, but there was no way in hell she was going to see it, not for a while anyway.
Now, that scene was a bit let’s say anti-climactic; basically no climax. The scene is in the book if you would like to read it. Anyway, I had to persevere in order to bring my fictional couple much needed satisfaction. So buckling down, I proceeded to write my first full-on sex scene. I sat on my sofa in broad daylight with again the television on for background noise and tried to write it. My problem with the scene was it was a bit messy, literally. My couples much to my disconcertion ran rue with my book and were engaging in hot, messy, sticky sex. I personally had a problem with this. I wanted to clean it up. Things were melting on the nightstand. After sleeping on it, I again took out my computer notebook and finished the scene. To really give my scene the push it needed, I gave myself permission to write freely and without embarrassment, well mostly. I reminded myself that the scene was not about me but was what Chloe, my heroine, would do. One little tidbit about me is that I tend to read what I write out loud as I do it. You can imagine how hard it was to write a scene like this with my two children in the house. I learned to whisper read quickly.
When the scene was finished to my satisfaction and of course my couples, I texted my neighbor to see what she thought. She arranged that night for her fiancé to take their young daughter out to the movies. Over wine and bottles of water, I read her my first sex scene. I think I did a good job. At one point, I looked up from fixing some typos and found her staring at me with what could only be described as sexual frustration. I stopped fixing my errors and finished reading the scene. At the end, she told me she was afraid when I asked to get her opinion on the scene that I was a bad writer and she would have to be put on the spot. My bad. I had never shared with her my work or that I was a writer before. And of course, I chose this piece to break her in.
So the secret about writing sex scenes is this: write it however it works for you and don’t allow your own embarrassment or thoughts about what you would or wouldn’t do hold you back. Just write it!